|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
"I'd like to find a partner who dances. Do you?" my profile on Match.com asked. My now-husband Drew emailed that he was willing to take lessons, and that was enough for me. Non-dancer Drew's courage to put himself out on the dance floor and to show in lesson after lesson his amateur status was truly impressive. We took private dance instruction for a year before our wedding, and as a result, got around the dance floor quite gracefully at our reception.
Women are dying to dance. Any man who can ask a woman to dance, then take charge of what happens on the floor and move relatively smoothly to music, has enormous appeal. Fat or skinny, short, tall, or not even close to attractive, even old, old, old, a man who is comfortable on the dance floor has his pick of the ladies.
For whatever the reason, dancing intoxicates. Especially women.
Few men can really dance, and those guys are on the floor constantly. Some men think they can dance and do get up, ask the ladies, and have fun. But at least half the men sit or stand uncomfortably on the sidelines with all the women who wish to be on the dance floor.
We women don't get to dance nearly as much as we'd like to, even the ladies who are good dancers. There aren't enough dancing men to go around. You can almost feel the yearning, the sadness, and the disappointment in those women and between those non-dancing couples. And the non-dancing guys? Pathetic.
I personally know three women close to my age who met their now - spouses on the dance floor, and those ladies were great catches! Gentlemen and ladies, there's a message here.
Guys:
1. Take lessons and learn how to dance. Leading well takes skill, but if Drew could learn how, so can you.
2. Go to dances.
3. Ask women to dance. Lots of women. They'll love it. Even if you aren't so good, they'll appreciate your efforts.
Dance lessons themselves are good places to meet women, and most dance studios have regular parties for their students to practice what they have learned.
Ladies:
1. Take dancing lessons yourself and learn how to follow. Here I was, 50 years old, thinking I loved to dance, and I had no idea how to do the woman's part! Following takes skill! You have to figure out what your partner has in mind for you to do in a split second, and then actually do it, all while dancing backwards.
2. Buy yourself some real ballroom dancing shoes, maybe with high heels. Believe it or not, those shoes are comfortable. They have to be. Not only do they look very sexy, they stay on your feet!
3. Hang out at dances, too, if you like to dance. Single guys go to dances.
If you are connected to a dance studio, other single women will be at their parties as well as the studio instructors and male students, so you will know people. Dance parties are safe and comfortable for single women.
Guys -- nothing enhances as man's romantic marketability more than becoming a decent dancer. Learning to dance is cost efficient and relatively painless. No surgery or blood loss, no sweaty hours at the gym, no personality makeovers needed. Just dance lessons.
What's stopping you? Look up the dance studio nearest you and make that call! You'll become a dancing babe magnet!
Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach / Helping Singles Find A Sweetheart!
eBk: "Find A Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women"
Purchase ebook at: http://www.cafeshops.com/findasweetheart
Tele
classes: "Find A Sweetheart Quick Start" & "Platinum Profiles"
Stay current with my complimentary enewsletter *eMAIL to eMATE*
Subscribe at http://find-a-sweetheart.com/newsletter.html
www.Find-A-Sweetheart.com / email: Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com
4870 Oak Ridge Road, Vicksburg, MS 39183 / Ph.601-619-0030
I bet you're like me - you want results now,... Read More
I am a physicist by education, and a practical business... Read More
The power of the mind draws certain events, circumstances and... Read More
It's been said that, "To attract attractive people, you must... Read More
Recently, at a public function where I was the Toastmaster,... Read More
Last week, I had the privilege of leading a 4-day... Read More
"Success is not to be pursued; it is to be... Read More
For years it seems as though the secrets to obtaining... Read More
I have a deep and abiding belief that there lies... Read More
In Twelve Step meetings, it's traditional to groan when someone... Read More
If you read personal growth or self-help books at all,... Read More
Love. You may notice that I made that an entire... Read More
You've heard people say that opportunity only knocks once. I... Read More
Making a fabulous impression on people opens doors for your... Read More
Dear Friend,First of all, let's take a look at the... Read More
Why communication through body language and appropriate language are crucial... Read More
I believe in myself, therefore, I have all that my... Read More
There is an art and a science to prosperity. The... Read More
This year (2004), I've completed over 64 seminars. And one... Read More
This is the sixth article in our "True Power" series.... Read More
For any inner-directed individual, much of life feels like you... Read More
In the latter half of the 1800s, when the telegraph... Read More
When I go out and talk to business people, I... Read More
What you need to understand is that there is no... Read More
"Bad Boys".If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm"... Read More
"Imagine a funeral. The preacher's giving the eulogy. And suddenly,... Read More
And the real sad part is that the people involved... Read More
Communication, which occupies approximately 70% of our waking hours, is... Read More
How well do you understand how gut instincts ? yours... Read More
A couple of weeks ago I celebrated my anniversary by... Read More
There's a big opportunity here! The holidays bring a change... Read More
(excerpted from the Cultivating an Unshakable Character series)Could creating your... Read More
Character or Reputation. When we see these two words together,... Read More
There Are No Secrets To SuccessAs you strive toward accomplishing... Read More
Having good communication skills in the workplace is important. This... Read More
An ideal is not the dream that can never be... Read More
It was a long walk but someone had to do... Read More
Some people lure romance to them. Some folks magnetize riches.... Read More
It is becoming clear that the way a country or... Read More
Good luck was not part of my life for many... Read More
For years it seems as though the secrets to obtaining... Read More
I'm sure most of you have heard of, and perhaps... Read More
What do we all strive for in life? Success! Success... Read More
The statement ""The concept of free will is a fallacy""... Read More
Breakthrough Scientific Research on the Amoeba And Why You Must... Read More
If we all got everything we wanted, most of us... Read More
Here is an exercise for you that will develop what... Read More
Each person has her or his own place and purpose.... Read More
For the last several years, I have included on my... Read More
So much life conditioning inhibits the brilliance that is in... Read More